I tried to narrow down my floral inspiration pix. Really, I did! It’s just that…I have so many. And they’re all so beautiful.
My auntie called yesterday to schedule an appointment to talk about my wedding flowers, and she asked me to bring some pictures. I wonder how many qualifies as “some”…cuz there’s a lot more where these came from! I’ve narrowed it down to the following photos.
For my bouquet, I would love a giant, yummy-smelling fluffball. Key word being fluffball.
We could add light hints of our wedding colors—pink, orange, and yellow:
Or stick with what I know best—pink pink pink! (Isn’t Mrs. Daffodil so beautiful?)
Onto the bridesmaids’ bouquets! The ones below have just the right pinkness, softness, and roundness; but they look so heavy! We might go a tad smaller. I don’t want anyone’s arms falling off during the ceremony.
You can see all the creamy, petal-y gorgeousness in this close up. We wouldn’t have purple anemones in ours.
What about my dashing groom? A mini calla lily on its own looks classic and dignified—not too flowery or fluffy. I’ll have to okay this with Adam, but I think it’d be the perfect accent on the men’s tuxes.
A cheery, vibrant arrangement could welcome guests when they enter the reception venue. If we have two of these, they could work double-time as altar arrangements!
The centerpieces will be bright and homey.
If the ones above are too pricey, I’ll ask her what she thinks of this “loose” arrangement.
Unwrapped, this bouquet would be my perfect centerpiece. All our colors are represented in a mix of fun and luxurious florals:
For the cocktail hour, we’ll place some simple pieces on the high tables and on the bar.
And finally, here is my cake inspiration that I posted about long ago. It’s just perfection.
15?! This might be too much. I want to give my auntie a complete idea of what I like, but I don’t want to overwhelm her. When it comes to sharing your ideas with vendors, how do you find the line between helpful and overwhelming?
A while back, the ladies at my dress shop said a veil designer was having a veil show at the shop, so I made an appointment to try on my dress with all different veils. My BFF, my Auntie J, and my brother’s family came with me, fully expecting a veil show. It was not a veil show.
Let me preface this by saying: I love my dress shop. It’s one of a kind and altogether lovely. It took me a long time to write this post, because I don’t want to write anything negative. In order to make this negative experience into a positive, I’ll tell you what I did in this situation, and what I should have done to make it a better situation.
I put on the sample of my beautiful dress, and the sweet shop owner introduced me to…well, let’s call her Ms. Veil. Ms. Veil was the veil designer, but she didn’t seem interested in veils. Instead, she was really adamant about me purchasing some of these:
What I Did: Half-croaked half-whispered, “So pretty! But I can’t! No thank you.” Normally, I would cry out in fear of metals touching my bare skin, but I’d lost my voice to laryngitis and didn’t want to hurt her feelings–she handmade each piece. Auntie J explained how badly allergic I am.
What I Should’ve Done: Cried out in fear. Gets the point across faster.
But Ms. Veil had to find something I could buy. Earrings? Bracelets? Sterling silver? Glass beads with a teeny tiny metal clasp?
What I Did: Croaked, “So sorry, I can’t.” Kept shaking my head no when she replied more loudly with more options. BFF and Auntie J tried to speak up, but she talked over all of us. My throat was throbbing from all the croaking, and I was getting weary.
What I Should’ve Done: Pretended I was mute from the start. Would’ve saved a lot of vocal strain.
My BFF deftly took off all the jewelry and directed Ms. Veil’s attention back to the veils. We finally started trying on different styles. Three switches later, we ran out of veils. She then showed us hair pieces that we could purchase along with the imaginary veils.
What I Did: Acted completely understanding that she only brought four veils. Let her stick things in my hair.
What I Should’ve Done: Gotten back to the subject at hand. Asked to see pictures of the lengths and edgings she talked about.
I asked Ms. Veil if we could use a tulle that lies softly against me (her sample veils were rough against my skin). She said every company uses the exact same type of tulle, so I would never find a veil that does not feel exactly like her veils.
What I Did: Tried on a veil from the bridal shop’s supply. Felt how much softer it was. Kept my mouth shut.
What I Should’ve Done: Said something!
At the end of the night, I felt horribly guilty about not being able to wear her jewelry, so we bought my veil from her. I didn’t want her to feel like she wasted her time. After we cut the check, she went over to her jewelry table to put things in order. The sweet shop owner came over and asked, “So how’d things go?” And Ms. Veil snapped, “She’s not buying a thing! She can’t wear a single piece of my jewelry! She’s allergic to everything!” Um. I was standing at the table with them.
What I Did: Felt even more guilty from her verbal explosion. Said it was all so pretty, and that I was so sorry I wasn’t getting anything. Left feeling crummy as heck.
What I Should’ve Done: Recognized that it wasn’t a good situation from the start; rescheduled; and left the moment we got there. Maybe we were all just having a bad day.
I’m a little nervous about seeing her when she finishes my veil. I hope our second meeting is a million times better than our first! Have you had any crummy wedding planning experiences? Did you handle it the way you wanted to, or do you wish you could go back and set everything right?
Seeking out wedding vendors is tough, time-consuming task. I looked at ads in local wedding magazines, received referrals from venues, and asked newly married friends. After swimming through a sea of unfamiliar names, I had an awesome idea: Ask my mom! She always knows what to do!
Mommy and me ❤
She thought of some friends and relatives off the top of her head, and I hesitated. “Is it okay to ask people we know? Won’t they want to relax and enjoy the wedding as normal guests?” She shooed away my concerns, and said that she would start asking around. Here’s who we’ve recruited so far:
- Our officiant is my uncle. He’s a pastor and a devoted dad to my two adorable cousins. He’s also really funny and easygoing—just the kind of person I want close to me on the big day!
- Our graphic designer is my beautiful and talented cousin. I have lots of embarrassing pictures of us from our childhood and adolescence, but we’ll save those for her wedding. 😉
- Our florist is my “auntie.” She’s not family, but our families have been friends since before I was born. I have fond memories of babysitting her little girl and watching my mom help arrange flowers for her shop.
- My hair and makeup artist is another “auntie.” She has several successful salons in our area, and I am glad that I’ll have a familiar face with me on the morning of our wedding day!
I asked my mom if I should draw up contracts with them, and she said that it’s not necessary. As long as they’re free on our wedding day, we’ll be all set! I have to admit, the easy-breeziness of it all worries me. What if something happens—what if they have to go out of state or they get sick that weekend?
But my nerves settle when I realize that these are people who have known me since I was a tiny tot. They care about me, and if something went wrong, they would make it right without a second thought. I feel relieved knowing that the details are in the hands of people I know and love.
Do you have any family-member-vendors or (as other Bees have called them) friendors?
Our invitations are currently in the works! I’ve been talking with a graphic designer to come up with something formal, bright, personal, and cute! I love cute. 🙂 And even though I have no idea what it will look like, I already know that my favorite part is going to be the map!
Mr. Parfait and I grew up (and currently live) in the town where we’re having our ceremony. Our houses are about 30 seconds away from each other, and our reception venue is just down the street! All of this close proximity means that we can feature our favorite places on the map, including:
- Our current homes
- The place we met: Our high school!
- The hill where we have all our picnic-and-frisbee afternoons
- The fountain where he proposed to me
- Our favorite restaurant
- Our favorite ice cream shop
- Oh, and our church and reception venue…can’t forget those!
While looking for map-inspiration, I came across Aerialist Press. I fell in love with the maps in their gallery! Here is a sampling of what they create:
These three maps have completely different styles, but I adore all of them! The first is formal; the second is playful; and the third is very straightforward. I think my older relatives would appreciate the third one the most, but my younger ones would get a kick out of the second one.
Isn’t this so creative? I had to include this map, because our first date was at The Cheesecake Factory, too. 🙂
Which map is your favorite? And what other places would you include on your wedding map?